This blog post he wrote doesn't directly confirm this, but gives details here and there. When asked on the Mormons Building Bridges Facebook page if Tom is still with his partner, Kendall Wilcox of Far Between said: "Tom has not shared all the details of how his relationship with his partner has evolved so respect and circumspection in speculating about the nature of the "break-up" is best advised."
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I'm surprised this hasn't been discussed more on the blogosphere. Either I'm thinking too much about the topic or the Moho Blogging Scene is slowly dying. (I really hope it's not the later.)
First, this is nothing new: gay Mormons who 100% want to stick with the gospel and its doctrine have two choices.
1. Remain single.
2. Marry someone of the opposite sex.
I refuse to follow those two, so I'm obviously not 100% in accordance. But many gay Mormons/SSA'ers are.
What I'm trying to get to - I was surprised (in a good way) that Elder D. Todd Christofferson's brother, Tom, was invited to speak at the recent North Star conference. Y'all already know how I feel about North Star, so need to elaborate on the organization.
Tom has quite a story and currently lives with his partner Clarke in Connecticut. For more backstory, here's a talk he gave earlier this year in Arizona. But wait, North Star folks are 100% in accordance with the church doctrine and Tom doesn't comply with the above two choices.
Does Tom's story bring on a third possibility?
3. Be in a same-sex relationship but still be active in the church.
I'm seriously curious because I haven't seen much response and reaction post-conference. All the media attention happened before the conference, and most of the spotlight was put on Tom (who wasn't even a main speaker.)
I've met, both in-person and in online forums, those who in no way would seek out a same-sex relationship, but does Tom's story change things? Does it give more hope?
Could it be that North Star is softening their stance? (The conspiracy theorist in me thinks North Star is losing members so they are exploring all options, rather than being so strict in accepting only those who follow the first two qualifications.) I started to think they were softening their stance, but then they put out stupid stuff like this, and I change my mind.
Whatever the reason to bring in Tom, I think it's a step in the right direction. It removes some of the guilt and shame some gay Mormons carry. It shows we don't HAVE to be lonely. It's nice to know that there are more than two options, and possibly be accepted by friends and family if remaining single or marrying someone of the opposite sex is not your forte.
Next thing we know, Ty Mansfield will speak out FOR gay marriage! (Ok, ok, I guess we shouldn't go THAT far.)