Earlier this year, I decided to join the Tinder game. The app uses your location to find potential matches/dates. You get a stack of profiles with pictures and a short paragraph, and you swipe left if the person is a "NO." Swipe right if you're interested. If you both swipe right, then it's a match, and you can chat.
I made a post right after I downloaded the app, so I was an extreme novice. My buddy over at The Mostly Unfabulous Life of a Mormon Boy requested an update (6 months ago.) So here it is!
I have a typical introductory paragraph on Tinder. Simple but nothing too "out there." But if I deleted my description and wrote about my ACTUAL life, it would be:
30-something disaffected gay Mormon who is still kind of in the closet. I've never had a serious relationship with a guy. I like cuddling.Fortunately, my description is nothing like the above, and I've matched with a handful of guys.
I still use the app and below you'll find a list of my experiences/thoughts on Tinder. Now, I've had some great things happen with the app and met some awesome people, but this will focus on the weirder/unique side. (because that's more fun to blog about!)
Here we go....
- I matched with a guy about 7 years younger than me who keeps calling me "Daddy."
- I did a quick Google search on a match, and found his mugshot.
- Another Google search on a different guy led me to a match's naked pictures and videos.
- I matched with a great guy, then found out he was married (to a woman.) Very unfortunate as the dude is hot.
- I've learned that any guy "22 miles away" from me is most likely someone who has a long layover at the airport in my city. (Meaning it's highly unlikely I'll ever meet this person.)
- Correct grammar is such a turn-on.
- Height is such a big deal on Tinder, (or at least gay Tinder!) it's fascinating to me. (If anyone cares, I'm 6'1"!)
- While swiping through profiles, I found a guy who was obviously in an LDS Chapel. (carpeted walls, Jesus pic, etc.) Sadly, we didn't match. Where art thou mystery Moho?!
- Having a co-worker pop up is quite awkward.
- Getting compliments still makes me feel all tingly inside.
Ok, that last one wasn't awkward. Basically I think Tinder is a nice stepping stone in this whole coming-out journey and accepting myself. I'm not hiding behind an alias. It's almost liberating that I just get to be myself.
Maybe Part 3 will be some kind of success story! :-)